The Rules of Love and Logic
Adults take good care of themselves by setting firm limits in loving ways without anger, lecture, or threats.
When a child causes a problem, the adult hands it back in loving ways.
1. In a loving way, the adults hold the children accountable for solving their problems in a way that does not make a problem for others.
2. Children are offered choices within limits.
3. Adults use enforceable statements.
4. Adults provide delayed/extended consequences.
The adult's empathy is "locked in" before consequences are delivered.